Agnieszka Piotrowska (UK) Married to the Eiffel Tower

documentary film, 2008

Married to the Eiffel Tower is a revealing film about a small number of women in the world who feel that loving objects in a romantic way is just another way of being normal. They call themselves objectum sexuals, a term which is now beginning to be accepted in psychological literature. They believe that objects have life and some form of independent consciousness and that they are therefore capable of communicating and loving you back. And yes, they are objects of their physical desire too. Objectum love differs from fetishism because in fetishism the object is still clearly connected to, and has traces of, a human relationship. An objectum sexual dreams only of her object when she dreams of love. She wants her body to become one with her object; it is only the shapes of their structures they yearn for – never human flesh. The pioneer of objectum sexuality is Eija Ritta Berliner Mauer, a Swedish woman who declared herself in love with the Berlin Wall more than 30 years ago and married him (yes, him and not it) in 1973. Naisho/Erica (36) from San Francisco, the main character in the film, got married to the Eiffel Tower. “There is a huge problem with being in love with a public object,” she says, “The issue of intimacy or rather lack of it, is forever present.“

Agnieszka Piotrowska (UK)

Agnieszka Piotrowska (1964, Warsaw) is a BBC trained documentary filmmaker with almost 20 years experience in the industry as a writer/producer/director and series producer. Piotrowska went to school in Sopot, Poland and Sweden. She studied at Hull University, and received a MA in Modern European Drama at Reading University with special supervision at Christ Church, Oxford. A freelance filmmaker since 1992, she has been nominated three times for an Emmy, and awarded a number of international prizes as well as RTS and BAFTA. Over the years she has interviewed Roman Polanski, David Puttnam, Micky Rourke, Sting, Oscar de la Renta, Lech Wałęsa, and other celebrities as well as working with convicted criminals or the dispossessed around the world, particularly in Africa. Lives and works in London.